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Monday, February 28, 2011

Counterfeits of Love (and why people accept them): Abuse and Manipulation

Eminem and Rihanna's song "Love the Way You Lie" glorifies an abusive relationship.

(LifeTeen.com)

What it is.
Someone can be abusive with words (insulting you), actions (hitting you), or with emotions (manipulation).

Where you see it. Most abusive behavior in a teen relationship is learned at home. A teenage boy who sees his father hit his mother is more likely to hit his own girlfriend. A teen girl who is emotionally manipulated at home is more likely to accept that behavior in a boyfriend.

Why people accept manipulation and abuse. An abusive relationship is very dramatic, and for some young people, they like the excitement and the attention they get because they’re relationship is always center-stage. An abusive relationship is an emotional roller coaster: you will have very low lows, but the next day you can try to make up and you share a very high high. That emotional adventure can be addictive.

Each of these components are tucked into Eminem and Rihanna’s song disturbing song “Love the Way You Lie.”

The emotional adventure:

Here we go again. It’s so insane. Cause when it’s going good. It’s going great… …But when it’s bad. It’s awful. I feel so ashamed. I snap.

Verbal and physical abuse:

Now you’re in each other’s face. Spewing venom and these words when you spit ‘em. You push. Pull each other’s hair. Scratch, claw, bit ‘em. Throw ‘em down.

About being emotionally abused:

Just gonna stand there and watch me burn. But that’s alright because I like the way it hurts. Just gonna stand there and hear me cry. But that’s alright Because I love the way you lie.

Why manipulation and abuse is the counterfeit of love.

What is love? There are many ways that the Bible talks about love, but this one is pretty clear from John 15:13:

“No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

And that’s exactly what Jesus did for us. For me. For you. So why would you be in a relationship with someone that wouldn’t die for you? You deserve to be with someone whose top priorities are to cherish your dignity and get you to heaven. You deserve someone who cares for soul.

Let me finish with a line from the song called “Sigh No More” by the band Mumford and Sons:

“Love that will not betray you, dismay or enslave you, it will set you free.”

Editor’s note: If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, get help. Talk to a school councilor, teacher, parent, or your parish priest. You were never meant to make it on your own.

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Stella Yuna Kim: Skating Champion…


(OurFaithInAction.net) Dur­ing the Win­ter Olympics Feb­ru­ary 2010, a fig­ure skater from South Korea wowed the judges so much that she not only won the gold medal, she also broke the world record for the high­est score ever in such a com­pe­ti­tion. Peo­ple were awestruck by the beauty and per­fec­tion of her skills, but many peo­ple also noticed that just before she began her rou­tine she made the sign of the cross and bowed a moment in silent prayer.

Her name is Yuna Kim, and she has been skat­ing since she was five years old, but she only became a Catholic about a year and half before win­ning the gold medal. Let’s take a look at her story.

Yuna was born Sep­tem­ber 5, 1990. When she began skat­ing, it was just for fun at her mother’s prompt­ing. Two years later, at age seven, a skat­ing coach approached her mother and said that Yuna had the tal­ent to become a world-​​class skater. She began train­ing, and devel­oped quickly as a qual­ity skater. She loved the ele­gance and chal­lenge of fig­ure skating.

At age 12 she became the youngest per­son ever to win the South Korean Fig­ure Skat­ing Cham­pi­onship, and became an instant celebrity in her coun­try. She began com­pet­ing inter­na­tion­ally at age 14 and won sec­ond place at sev­eral junior world competitions.

Train­ing in any sport is hard, as every­one knows. In order to con­tinue improv­ing Yuna had to spend many long hours alone on the ice and in other types of train­ing. Her mother accom­pa­nied her and gave her emo­tional sup­port, but Kim had to give up the friends and nor­mal social life that most teens enjoy. There were many times when she felt very lonely.

She con­tin­ued to improve her skat­ing skills, and when she was 15 she won the 2006 World Junior Fig­ure Skat­ing Championships.

So, when did Yuna start to become inter­ested in the Catholic faith? Appar­ently it was a slow process, but mainly due to the influ­ence of her long­time physi­cian, Dr. Cho, who is a fer­vent Catholic. Doc­tor Cho runs a med­ical sports clinic, and he has many Catholic vis­i­tors at his clin­ics, includ­ing Catholic nuns. From what we could gather, Yuna and her mom were very impressed by the kind­ness and love that the nuns showed to every­one. They began to ask ques­tions about the Catholic faith.

Yuna’s trips to the doc­tor were pretty fre­quent, because high level skat­ing is very tax­ing on the body. Kim had begun to suf­fer injuries to her knees and feet since 2005.

Dur­ing the 2006-​​2007 sea­son, Yuna’s pain increased and she was forced to with­draw from the South Korean Cham­pi­onships. She was diag­nosed with a her­ni­ated disc in her lower back in Jan­u­ary 2007.

Yet, in spite of her injury Yuna decided to com­pete in the 2007 World Fig­ure Skat­ing Cham­pi­onships, and appar­ently this was where her inter­est in the Catholic faith also took a step for­ward. The nuns had given her mother a small holy medal to pin on Yuna’s skat­ing out­fit. Because of the back injury and all the pain asso­ci­ated with it, Kim was not expected to do well, but she did much bet­ter than expected. She placed third over­all and even broke a world record for the most amount of points ever awarded in one aspect of the com­pe­ti­tion, the short program.

Kim and her mother were amazed at the results, but some­thing else was hap­pen­ing.
They were becom­ing fas­ci­nated by the per­sonal love of Jesus, and the spir­i­tual beauty of Mary, Jesus’s mother.

The lone­li­ness of train­ing and com­pe­ti­tion had made Kim long for a close friend. And the pres­sure of hav­ing to always per­form at her best had begun to make her see the uncon­di­tional love of Christ and Mary as some­thing very beau­ti­ful. She didn’t have to be a world cham­pion to be loved by Christ and Mary. She didn’t have to be any­thing at all. She sim­ply had to allow her­self to be loved.

She and her mother asked to receive instruc­tions on the Catholic faith. They were both bap­tized in May 2008. The priest who gave them instruc­tions said he was very impressed by Yuna’s hunger for the faith and the joy she found in it. He said she absorbed every aspect of the Catholic faith that he taught her with an enthu­si­asm and purity that deeply impressed him.

Yuna was already a super­star in South Korea, so the news of her becom­ing
Catholic made head­lines. In Korea, Catholics often choose a new name when they are bap­tized. Yuna chose “Stella,” which means, “star.” Not because she wants to be a Hol­ly­wood star, but because “Stella Matutina” and “Stella Maris” are names for Mary. They mean Mary, the morn­ing star, and Mary, the star of the sea. “Morn­ing star” refers to Mary as the star in morn­ing sky of human his­tory who shows us the beauty of the com­ing dawn. The dawn is her son, Jesus, who brought God’s love to the world. Mary is called “star of the sea” because Mary’s love can help guide us to Jesus and to heaven in the midst of the trou­bled seas of this life.

Yuna, or Stella, has a very strong devo­tion to Mary. She loves her purity and good­ness. Since her bap­tism she wears a rosary ring, which many peo­ple con­fuse with an engage­ment ring. It is not an engage­ment ring. It is just a reminder that helps her pray with Mary. In fact this month, Octo­ber 2010, Yuna par­tic­i­pated with the bish­ops of Korea in a cam­paign to explain the rosary to peo­ple in Korea, since so many peo­ple were fas­ci­nated by her ring.

Stella has explained that her Catholic faith has given her a new­found peace. She said that at her bap­tism she felt great con­so­la­tion and relief, know­ing that she had God’s love, and she promised that from then on she would pray before enter­ing the rink.

If you have watched Yuna per­form, you know that she has kept that promise.
Right before her Olympic per­for­mance mil­lions of peo­ple around the world watched make the sign of the cross and spend a short moment in prayer. Some view­ers say that almost with­out think­ing they made the sign of the cross too, fas­ci­nated by the spir­i­tual beauty of this young girl.

If you have some time, watch one of Yuna’s per­for­mances on Youtube. You will be impressed by the beauty and grace with which she per­forms. And know­ing that she is also per­form­ing with con­fi­dence in God’s love adds a deeper dimen­sion to her beauty.

Let’s pray that Stella con­tin­ues to live a strong Catholic faith, and con­tin­ues to help other peo­ple dis­cover God’s love by her exam­ple. In her own way, Stella is also a “morn­ing star” like Mary, who points us toward Jesus. And that’s prob­a­bly the best star any of us can be.

Thursday, February 17, 2011

16-year-old pop superstar Justin Bieber: abortion is ‘like killing a baby’


(LifeSiteNews.com) - In a soon-to-be-published interview with Rolling Stone, teen idol Justin Bieber revealed that he shares something in common with a growing number of young people in the United States - he is pro-life.

“I really don’t believe in abortion,” Bieber told contributing editor Vanessa Grigoriadis. “It’s like killing a baby?”

When pressed as to whether he opposes abortion in the case of rape, the young singer replied, “Um. Well, I think that’s really sad, but everything happens for a reason. I guess I haven’t been in that position, so I wouldn’t be able to judge that.”

Canadian-born Bieber’s conviction evidently has nothing to do with party politics, as he revealed when asked who he would support when he’s old enough to vote. “I’m not sure about the parties. But whatever they have in Korea, that’s bad,” he said.

Erik Whittington of the pro-life organization Rock for Life said Bieber’s remarks are “Great news” since he “has huge influence on young people.”

At the same time he questioned Bieber’s hedging on the question of rape. “Justin, I thought you said, ‘It’s like killing a baby?’ If it is, which it is that what is the problem? Why the hesitation? How come it’s OK to judge other situations but not this one?”

Bieber also suggested that his young fans should wait to have sex. “I don’t think you should have sex with anyone unless you love them. … I think you should just wait for the person you’re … in love with,” he said.

In a recent interview with Catholic Online, Justin Bieber’s mother, Pattie Mallette, said that she “brought Justin up in the faith” and that her son attended a Catholic school. Mallette, a former Catholic, identifies as a non-denominational Christian.

Mallette asked her son’s Christian fans to pray for the young singer, who shot to stardom at the ripe age of 15 after his single “One Time” reached number 12 on the Canadian Hot 100, and called the entertainment industry a “dark” business. “My prayer is for Justin to be protected against the temptations of the industry,” she said.

The youthfulness of the American pro-life movement - the March for Life in Washington this year, as usual, owed much of its size to an army of young people - has been noticed even by leaders of the abortion lobby. “I just thought, my gosh, they are so young. There are so many of them, and they are so young,” said NARAL Pro-Choice America president Nancy Keenan last year, after observing the March.

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Pure Reality Chastity Rally for Grades 8-12 this Saturday, February 12

The Pure Reality Chastity Rally -- a youth rally for grades 8-12 -- presents chastity and abstinence as the true paths to freedom amidst the modern challenges and temptations that face our youth.

Keynote speaker is nationally-acclaimed Jason Evert from Catholic Answers, with entertainment by local musician Joe Languell and breakout sessions by Stephanie Balser and Steve Pokorny. Closing Mass will be celebrated by Bishop Kevin Vann and concelebrated by Bishop Kevin Farrell.

You can register at purereality.com for only $30 per person. Youth must attend as a group with safe environment-cleared adults, or may attend with a safe environment-cleared parent.

Bishop Farrell encourages all who minister to youth to take advantage of this opportunity to promote the Culture of Life through chastity education:

“I enthusiastically endorse the Pure Reality Rally as a joy-filled call to young people to say ‘yes’ to life and love – the true love of Christ as lived in the freedom of chastity. I strongly encourage all our Catholic youth and their leaders to attend this special event, to embrace the challenge of renewing their minds and stirring up their hearts, and to take the light of this experience into the world to bring healing and hope.” - Bishop Kevin Farrell

*There is a Special Parent Presentation by Jason Evert (for parents and youth leaders) on Friday, February 11, 2011, at 7:30 p.m. at St. Ann Center Cenacle in Coppell -- pregisteration required and available here.*

Pro-Life Scholarships for Students

Scholarship Program – Earn up to $8000 for College

Texas Right to Life's "Generation Now" Pro-Life Leader Scholarship Program ensures a Pro-Life message is present on college campuses; students need to hear and learn why innocent human life must be respected from fertilization until natural death. The college years are a pinnacle time in students’ lives when many decide which values they will uphold. Over the course of their undergraduate collegiate education, recipients of the scholarship can earn up to $8,000 by educating their peers on the life issues through interactive and engaging events and activities.

Eligible applicants should have at least three years of undergraduate coursework remaining and be enrolled in a 4-year accredited university by Fall 2011. Applicants attending an out-of-state university must complete one year of studies at that university prior to applying. A mandatory summer training (in Houston) will further inculcate the principles of defending the right to life and refine skills to compassionately, effectively, and peacefully address the controversial issues of abortion, infanticide, stem cell research, and euthanasia. Applications for Fall 2011 enrollees must be received by April 4, 2011.

Visit www.TexasRightToLife.com/StudentCentral for a full list of requirements and to complete an application.

Graduate Scholarship Program – Earn $1000 Each Semester

Pro-Life values are often decried and challenged in nursing school, medical school, and law school. A support network fosters the maintenance of these strong convictions among graduate students. A limited number of scholarships are reserved for nursing, medical, and law students who are willing to establish a Pro-Life organization and host speakers and seminars at their in-state graduate school. Texas Right to Life will assist and mentor the students in these efforts.

Visit www.TexasRightToLife.com/StudentCentral for a full list of requirements and to complete an application.

High School Summer Camps

Pro-Lifers know how to rough it! Join us at REveAL, Texas Right to Life’s second annual summer camp for high school students, on July 23rd-July 26th at Messiah’s Ranch in Bryan, TX. Last year’s campers had so much fun that they demanded another camp to address more advanced topics!

Thus, REveAL2 will begin on the afternoon of July 26th and end on July 30th. We’ll dig deeper into stem cell research, euthanasia, and human cloning. Campers can expect to build long-lasting friendships with peers who share their values while playing games, exploring the outdoors, and learning the fundamentals of Pro-Life issues:

-- How was abortion legalized?

-- How do you respond to those who are pro-abortion?

-- What’s the difference between embryonic and adult stem cell research?

-- Why should you worry about euthanasia?

Visit www.TexasRightToLife.com/StudentCentral for more details, to view photos from last year, and to complete an application.

Student Oratory Contest

Students classified as juniors or seniors in high school are invited to research and write a 5-7 minute speech on any Pro-Life issue. Contestants will compete against other Texans for a chance to win a scholarship to National Right to Life’s contest. Local contests will be held in Houston, Dallas, Conroe, Madisonville, and San Antonio during February and March; registration deadlines vary for each contest. The first place winner of each competition will advance to the state contest to be held in Houston on April 16, 2011. (Expenses for the Texas winner will be paid for travel to the national contest to be held in Jacksonville, FL on June 25, 2011.)

Visit www.TexasRightToLife.com/StudentCentral for a complete list of guidelines and scholarship prizes.

Snowed Out for Tonight - Wednesday, February 9

No Youth Group tonight due to the snowy, icy roads. We will be meeting next week though!